Preparing for Marriage
Do people even really date anymore? Is that still a part of the culture that we live in today? I'd say we are kind of losing it. I think dating is viewed more as a "date 'em til you hate 'em" kind of attitude, meaning a couple becomes exclusive until one or the other gets tired of them. So, people just hang out instead. So, what are the pros and cons to dating and hanging out? First let us define dating so we actually understand what we are comparing.
Wikipedia says that "dating is a stage of romantic relationships in humans whereby two people meet socially with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a prospective partner in an intimate relationship or marriage." As far as this meaning goes, I would say that it is pretty reliable. So, let us get to comparing.
Hanging out is a great way to get to know someone in a comfortable setting where it isn't very formal. Other close friends can be there and it isn't awkward. There is never an awkward pause in a conversation or questioning whether to make a move or not. Whether it is making food or watching a movie, it is just chill. And if we are being honest, chill is the culture now a days. But, what are some cons? Someone in my class mentioned that when she is in a "hanging out" type of situation, she feels that she has to compete with the girls to get attention from a certain boy that is with them. Also, there is no room for hanging out to become "romantic". It is harder to get deep and to share things with more people around. People may argue against that, but that is just what I have come to know and feel through experience. It also becomes difficult to know the other's feelings for you. One may think, "Do they like me? How do I know if we just hang out?" Hanging out can add some confusion to the process.
Dating definitely has some ups and downs, but all in all, I think it is pretty great. Dating allows a girl and a guy to pair off and do something fun. Whether it be bowling or dinner, it is a good way to get out of the house. It is paid for! That is a big plus. However, for the one paying, it might be a little bit more difficult. But, there are many cheap but fun options for dates. Dating definitely invites a different feeling than hanging out does. It becomes more romantic and personal. It is one on one, so there is no need to compete against other girls and it is easier to open up about things with just one person. However, there might be awkward pauses, but that happens to everyone.
As you can probably tell, I am totally for dating. Although hanging out has some perks, it kind of gets tiring for me. I enjoy going out every once and a while. I think it is easier to get to know someone on a personal level on a date. But the sad part is, I hang out with guys way more than I go on dates with them. I can't even remember that last time I went on a date that wasn't to the grocery store. Needless to say, I hope our culture changes. I think dating should become the "thing" to do again. Don't get me wrong, I think hanging out is fun and a time well spent, but if you really want to impress someone and have them notice you, take them on a date.
Wikipedia says that "dating is a stage of romantic relationships in humans whereby two people meet socially with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a prospective partner in an intimate relationship or marriage." As far as this meaning goes, I would say that it is pretty reliable. So, let us get to comparing.
Hanging out is a great way to get to know someone in a comfortable setting where it isn't very formal. Other close friends can be there and it isn't awkward. There is never an awkward pause in a conversation or questioning whether to make a move or not. Whether it is making food or watching a movie, it is just chill. And if we are being honest, chill is the culture now a days. But, what are some cons? Someone in my class mentioned that when she is in a "hanging out" type of situation, she feels that she has to compete with the girls to get attention from a certain boy that is with them. Also, there is no room for hanging out to become "romantic". It is harder to get deep and to share things with more people around. People may argue against that, but that is just what I have come to know and feel through experience. It also becomes difficult to know the other's feelings for you. One may think, "Do they like me? How do I know if we just hang out?" Hanging out can add some confusion to the process.
Dating definitely has some ups and downs, but all in all, I think it is pretty great. Dating allows a girl and a guy to pair off and do something fun. Whether it be bowling or dinner, it is a good way to get out of the house. It is paid for! That is a big plus. However, for the one paying, it might be a little bit more difficult. But, there are many cheap but fun options for dates. Dating definitely invites a different feeling than hanging out does. It becomes more romantic and personal. It is one on one, so there is no need to compete against other girls and it is easier to open up about things with just one person. However, there might be awkward pauses, but that happens to everyone.
As you can probably tell, I am totally for dating. Although hanging out has some perks, it kind of gets tiring for me. I enjoy going out every once and a while. I think it is easier to get to know someone on a personal level on a date. But the sad part is, I hang out with guys way more than I go on dates with them. I can't even remember that last time I went on a date that wasn't to the grocery store. Needless to say, I hope our culture changes. I think dating should become the "thing" to do again. Don't get me wrong, I think hanging out is fun and a time well spent, but if you really want to impress someone and have them notice you, take them on a date.
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